Hiatus
I am having some problems, a major one, with my parents especially with my mum. I have to make a decision which will decide my future before my university starts next month. Therefore, I might not be updating my blog for some time, or at least, not within these few weeks. I will still read blogs though. I am considering of shutting down “Jason Mumbles” as well because my parents have discovered my blog.
Please do me a favour by leaving down your email address (primary), so that we can keep in touch if “Jason Mumbles” is shut down.
Updated at 1:34PM, 23/05/2005
My parents, especially my mum, and I have a dispute because of my academic matters such as examination results and tuition fees.
I have to make a decision – to quit my studies and work or to continue my studies and graduate as a third class computer engineer.
They, my dad to be exact, discovered my blog accidentally while “ransacking” my computer. They are not very fond with the idea of me blogging, as they said it is meaningless and a waste of time. My mum has also been sort of “spying” on me albeit I was in Malacca most of the time. She knew a lot of things, from which girl I went out with, what present and for whom I bought for, how much it cost and to the things that I did in Malacca. Some of the information she received was true but some of them were badly twisted or false information. Therefore, with my blog being discovered, things will get even nastier and disadvantage to me.
“Mumbles Jason”, I will always be.
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May 21st, 2005 19:26
Jason what happenned? HOw come out of a sudden this kind of thing happen, pls don’t shut down your blog site!!
May 21st, 2005 19:26
Actually the above comment is by me lah MrKiasu.
May 21st, 2005 22:23
Jason, You have to foresee this coming even before you begin. So, solve it like an adult? Take what doc adviced to Earthtone last time when her sis-in-law found her blog? I don’t see what is wrong with your blog that your parents shouldn’t see. I am sure your mom and dad would be proud with the kind of caring friends you found and also the kind of struggles you went through for your studies. Talk it out with them? Closing down is not the solution. It is running away. But facing whatever problems you have and talking it out is a permanent solution and will improve the relationship you had.
May 21st, 2005 22:37
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May 21st, 2005 23:07
I experience that too, and that’s why I shutted down my Rendezvous blog. Never mind, I’ve leave you my handphone number and messenger already right? If you still can’t find me, then kingly mail or exchange some interesting mails to alphonsotan@gmail.com
May 21st, 2005 23:26
oh..no…cannot shut down…!! hm..ur blog very nice wat…really a waste if u do tat lor..
if no choice have to do tat..then this is my email.. pinkgarfield@hotmail.com
May 21st, 2005 23:36
Well.. It’s only a matter of time before they found out, right? Expected what ;) My parents also found out - But I don’t think they read regularly. It’s okay what - They’re okay about it. Not like I’ve mentioned anything I shouldn’t also. Neither have you, right?
May 22nd, 2005 00:29
Agree with 5xmom and narrowband. When you start a blog, you would have expected this, right? So, shutting this down is not a good solution. In fact, this may be a good channel that you can communicate with your mum, since you find it difficult to do it face to face.
May 22nd, 2005 00:56
Wat happened? Why like so serious ?? Email me ya !
May 22nd, 2005 08:08
Have to agree with 5XMOM. You need to talk it out and explain to your parents. Whats with Malaysian and Spore parents anyways??? Even here they tend to want to control their children so much …must be the “face” or kiasu thing
May 22nd, 2005 15:30
your blog got porn ah cannot let parents see ah? my blog got bad word got sex got sick elements my parents also cannot do nything coz that’s me.. :) buay song don wan me lor.. if got chance talk to them and tell them you respect them and hope they’ll respect you in turn yah..
if still tak boleh settle then tell .|. to your blogreaders.. i think family care more bout you than readers.. so blog and family.. choose the latter.
May 22nd, 2005 16:16
dun close ur blog! some parents still view the internet and cyberworld as an evil thing (which to a certain aspect i would agree lah)…
like what 5xmom says, it can be solved with communication…
anywayz, good luck, and *hugs*
my email: erizabesu.blog@gmail.com
May 22nd, 2005 16:35
Jason, 5xmom have express the view from the mother (at least we few moms think this way), so talk it out, don’t ran away , you have a very good blog here, don’t waste it just like that.
May 22nd, 2005 16:53
what happened? Your parent’s discovering your blog might not be a bad thing altogether lor. At least its in someway a tool for them to understand you better. Take care and no worries. No problem cannot be solved. Cheers! *hugz*, ic3_que3n
May 22nd, 2005 18:22
Hope u able to settle the problem without closing ur blog..thing can be solve with ur sincerely…
Parents r orang sendiri lah… nothing kenot talk wan…
May 23rd, 2005 01:50
Yalor, dun close your blog. We here (all the mother here) also see your blog what, you can tell your mommy i got so many SAHM to see my blog ler.
Ask your mom or dad to be one of your fans lor :P
May 23rd, 2005 08:37
Let me comment again. My parents and relatives read my blog everyday, and at first i felt a bit uncomfortable with it. But then i look at what i write, its just the truth and i did not do anything embarrasing or something that will hurt any ppl. And its also another way to communicate with my parents, to let them know what i am thinking. Maybe you can tell your parents this and they will understand.
May 23rd, 2005 13:41
Tried Mango’s method?
Either create another new blog, or just simply change it’s URL.
May 23rd, 2005 13:57
i agree with kiasu.
i am planning to tell my parents my blog url before i enter Uni so that they could at least get updates on me (apart from emails).
if talking out serves no use, try changing ur url.
iced.skeleton@gmail.com
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May 23rd, 2005 14:49
Jason, we always suffer during the first few years in college, and that happened to me also. During my first year in college, i failed my A levels. But 4 years later, i am on my way to to complete my studies. Its a journey i guess, and we need time to learn to deal with all sorts of complexity and equations and so on.
Engineering is a very specific field, its also one of the most difficult one, and if we fail during the first semester, its normal. Try not to give up, if you decide to work now, then in the future will be difficult. Even if you know you will get a 3rd class, go on with it, things might change later. Unless you yourself are not interested in studying anymore.
May 23rd, 2005 18:19
didn’t expect the blog to end up like this, i like your blog a lot, as an ex-mmu student, and malaccan, i found your site gives me a sense of belonging, don’t quit just because your mom and dad found out your blog, you didn’t write anything that they can’t see right? it might be embarassing at first to let them see stuff that you always tried to deliberately refrain to discuss with your parent, maybe this is a chance for you to communicate with them. and the quiting of your study, you should really think about it, you might regret it afterward, it’s quite a big decision, what’s wrong with graduate as a third class computer engineer? it’s better than just quit your school and not become an engineer at all, you can brush up your skill even after graduate at workplace, and end up become first class engineer, school result doesn’t mean anything, it’s your determination to succeed that counts
May 23rd, 2005 22:24
dear jason, although we only know each other through each other’s blog surfings, i’m hoping that you do NOT quit your studies.
what mrkiasu said is true, computer engineering is one of the specialized fields in the market. getting a third class degree may not put you in the dean’s list or label you as a valedictorian, but all in all, first class AND second class AND third class will still have to work and encounter all the work stress and lifestyle, change of environment, communicating with your colleagues, teamwork, and most important of all, understand your role and know what you have to do and being able to accomplish the tasks your boss/clients gives you. i do not deny that a first class may be able to get you into a bigger company with a higher salary, but it all boils down to whether or not if you are able to perform. sometimes working in a small company can actually give you the opportunity to learn things that nobody have time to teach you in big companies. this is my personal experience, and also my friends’ experiences too.
your parents may feel that you’re wasting money and time. but in fact, it’s not. even if you got a third class, but when you’re wearing the mortar board and walking on stage to accept your scroll duing your convocation, your parents will still be proud of you (just that they dun say it out only).
they MAY think that the reason that you’re not performing in your studies as how they expected you to, may be that they assume you’re spending too much time blogging (which i feel it’s not true) and they think that the internet is evil…as for the spying part, maybe your mum kan cheong you have gf! haha! *just to cheer you up…*
but then, just ‘tahan’ and at least maintain your passing rates for 2 more years (you’re first year student, right?), time flies and soon you’ll find yourself like mrkiasu, going to graduate soon…and at that time, your parents will let you blog all you want ;)
*hugs*
May 23rd, 2005 22:41
Jason, jia you. I support whatever decision you make!
May 24th, 2005 02:02
wa…jason,u mustn’t close down ler..ur blog is the first i started reading ler…so its kinda memorable.
i think u dun have to take so drastic action as to close it down. u have other alternatives. think before u act.
cs_chua2003@yahoo.com
May 24th, 2005 11:12
Hi Jase, been enjoying your blog very much. All the best to you. Don’t worry, I’ll keep your blog under “In memories” section, if you decided to shutdown your blog. heheh…
Well, that’s the problem when someone revealed too much about personal information such as name and photo.
You might get yourself into trouble. The best way is to stay annonymous, and that’s one of the reasons why we uses nicknames.
In fact, my dad (The Emperor) knows and reads my blog, therefore I keep away some sensitive issues that might burn myself one day.
If you wish to continue blogging, hey, create a new blog site, use a new identity, that only those who need to know will know. Even you are busted, make sure you leave no evidence to be accused.
Alias, remember, use aliases. Stay away from showing your face in your blog.
May 24th, 2005 12:03
didn’t know you’re facing such situation only until today. anyway, hope you have managed to solve it by now. and most of all, i bet many of us here would not want to see your blog being closed down, seeing that so many people enjoy your “mumbles” ;)like what kancil killer said, create a new blog site, use a new identity and stay anonymous. i believe even thru this, you can still blog about your life as you like.
as for your future path, hmm, many people had already left their advices here, so i guess you don’t need another one. no matter what, BE YOURSELF, and this refers to either the blog thing or your future.
so, wish you GOOD LUCK :)
May 24th, 2005 13:38
Hi there Jason, Have to agree with 5Xmom and MrKiasu. You need to communicate with your parents and your blog could be a good start. Most ppl, especially parents have the misconception that blogs are a waste of time. However depending on the blog owner, it can be either a waste of time or it can be a place of self expression and very therapeutic. Writing is an easier and sometimes better form of communication for those who find it difficult to do it face to face (its also less confrontational as we can think before we write) so maybe you could communicate with your parents thru your blog now that they’ve found it? All the best to you Jason on this crossroad in your life. Think long and hard, make a wise decision for your future and I hope you don’t have to close down your blog.
May 24th, 2005 16:49
Easy only. Call your father to join and have fun with us.
May 24th, 2005 21:45
Dear Jason,
I am an ex-mmu(Just become ex!),and I understand the policy and system in MMU.In fact, good results do not guarantee a good job and it is also not a standard to judge whether somebody is smart or not.
I understand that you are suffering from your studies as you are taking something which you are not interested in.From your parents’ point of view,they don’t really know what is the difference between engineering and IT.What parents want is the output(=good result) as old people always think that good result=secure a good job.
What I wish to tell you is DO NOT quit from studies!!No matter how,study is most important.Imagine how many people don’t have the opportunity to get into uni!I got a friend from a very poor family,after F5,she cannot continue her study so she work for 1 year very hard to earn the fees so that she can enter a college.So,please,don’t quit!
3rd class is not the end of the world.Please don’t break your parents’ heart by quitting uni,try to communicate to solve the problem ok?
Be strong and, be mature…
May 24th, 2005 22:21
Wow, that’s a lot of love for you, dear Jason. And Jason’s dad, if you are reading it, aren’t you proud of him. He writes well and has so many friends!
If I’m dad, I’d think I’ve found a gold mine to be able to read into my son’s innerworld.
On studies…if let me say, must endure. Really. Get thru the shit and JUST DO IT.
good luck. I know you will come back one. Dunno why, I just know *haolian*
May 25th, 2005 11:37
aiyo poor thing. if for me i’m going to shift my blog away from my current address and continue to blog.
anyway tat’s my own life no one can come n disturb even my parents. you are old enough to decide wat you want to do and blogging is not a bad things. hmmm u decide la dun wan to talk so much.
in case u really shut down the blog, here is my email
seasky888 [at] yahoo [dot] com
or
sogua [at] mamakcorner [dot] com
May 25th, 2005 12:08
as for ur future, i’ve been taking quite a lot of time to think.
that’s why i never did have the courage to reply your email.
and frankly, i came up with nothing.
i am not in a position to judge ur situation, for i have no experience in it.
it depends on how u view life.
working before graduating with a degree has its pros and cons, but it doesn’t mean that u’re not capable of being promoted.
i’ve always held on to the princip of doing something i’m happy and comfortable AND interested with, because at the end of the day, this would be my job (probably for the rest of my life?)
:)
all the best, j.
May 25th, 2005 12:42
I will try not to take sides. Here goes - It is not this blog that is the problem. The problem lies with your parents mistrust of you. Ask yourself why? Both your parents really did mistrust you but could it be they have their reasons? Maybe they are right?
Maybe you still need them to keep an eye on you. For e.g. you did clearly shown that you had worked partime and spend a huge sum of money to buy gifts for others. No doubt this is a good gesture, but in your parents’ eyes maybe they feel you have used their hard-earned money not for your lessons which was what was intended.
Secondly, you cannot keep telling yourself the course is not your kinda choice because you have gone too far to pull back now. Life cannot afford this kind of attitude, wrong choice, erase, start again. It means working hard till the end.
What is a good decision? A good decision is one which you had decided and stick to it to the end, no matter how bad the struggle is.
So, go on studying, finish your course and stop blaming your parents.
Jason, we can do without your blog for the time being. Closing down the blog is not the end of the world. You cannot disappoint your parents. All parents strive for the best for their children. You come from an average family and count yourself lucky instead of feeling bad over these things. Study, complete your study, get your degree and get a job. That’s what matters.
May 25th, 2005 14:01
i say man. First munkit now you pulak.
try to work something out with your folks, i think you should let them know they can’t dictate everything in their children’s lives, esp when they are away in college.
my e-mail is on my page; under contacts.
May 25th, 2005 15:54
jason,
gambateh to facing problem…well…although u kee say u r nothing now…, i stil feel that u stil have something rite now…… maybe is really hard for u do make decision btw work n study…. well..i aredi understand ur situation… so..decision is in ur hand…no matter how…study is 1 thing cannot be quit??
if u have someproblem oranything just call melar…my phone always on 1…. oklar… now have ot go meeting liao..byebye
May 25th, 2005 21:11
In six sigma class, I learned that all problems have root cause & corrective action. Jason, sit down and think calmly what is the root cause of your problems and plan your corrective actions. If you are not showing good results then you have to spend more time in your studies. It is a challenge to show your parents that you can suceed in your studies with the existence of your blog. Most parents will be concerned about the future of their children because they love you. Negotiate with them & win back their trust.
michelle
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