Endless Nagging
I finally had a 30 minutes long conversation with my mother. However, she was the one speaking most of the time though. Yes, one round of endless nagging, questioning, and scolding about my screwed up results. Every thing was brought up, from my parent’s income, the house’s expenditure, my car, my lifestyle, my result, my friends, my housemate’s DVDs, my choice of entering MMU instead of Form 6 and bla bla bla… Sigh… Basically, “hopeless” is the only word that is able to summarize everything.
I may have not tried my best, but I did try.
I have stopped football betting and bookie because I promised my dad.
Even if I have tried my best, you will still say that I have not tried my best.
I am not living in anybody’s shadows or I should achieve what they can achieve.
I do not excel in my studies or academically. I, also hope that I would not fail my exam.
Do not compare me with your colleagues’ daughters. We are never meant to be the same.
I do not go out “yam cha”, watch movie or go enjoy myself with my housemates or friends anymore.
I do stay up until 6AM and I do spend most of my time in front of my computer but that do not mean I do not study for my examinations.
If everybody is the same and get first class honors, there will be no beggars in this world and everybody will be earning as much as Bill Gates.
Nobody says engineering courses are easy. I am glad that you know that too. However, we, engineering students are better in knowing how difficult it is.
I do not take every thing for granted. I do not ask anything from you, to buy or get me the things that I desire. I worked for all the things that I desired. Please do not act as if you bought my Nokia 6100 just because you sponsored RM100 for the gadget.
Thank you for giving me allowance. However, the allowance you gave me is barely enough for my 1 month’s expenditure. Please do not question me on how I spent my money because the money I used for buying presents and stuffs is the money I saved by skipping meals and taking up part time jobs.
-End-
Sometimes, I really wonder what I am doing in this world. I do not excel academically; neither have I had a skill that I can help me in earning a living. I am not living up to my parent’s expectation; neither I am capable of fulfilling their wishes. I never have a taste of success before and what I have is an account of achievements that are marked with the word – “Failed”. I guess I am a product of failure too. Duh~!
I am considering of going back to Malacca within these few days. My home is not a place for me to stay in. Spend more time with my family? Bah~! I am considering of quitting my studies too before my parent dump more money on me.
Earl-ku, does your company have any vacancy?
P/S : Consider Jason is in hiatus mode due to no proper place for connection in Tampin. I will blog if I have the chance.
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April 24th, 2005 18:45
:( you take care ok dude?
I know how it’s like..parental pressure…;(
I hope your mum will understand you. But hey, mother’s day is coming up:)
April 24th, 2005 19:14
getting first class doesnt guarantee u will earn like bill gates. just try ur best, prove to ur mum that u will turn out to be a BETTER 1 eventhough u didnt follow exactly what she desire u to be. always enjoy the process, n make sure u try ur best, n lay the rest to god..kekekee…gambatehh ooo!!
April 24th, 2005 21:24
Jason, I read many of your post and I think everyone has up and downs in one’s life. I as a parent I would definitely want my children to excel in their studies. You will understand when you become a dad latter. That I can promise you. As for now try hard and I am sure you will be able to succeed.Cheers!!!
April 24th, 2005 22:08
A lot of parents are like that. Bet ya , u cant beat my mother!!! every waking moment shes at it. My dad was wonderful. Evn tho I’ was CEO of an MNC and hubby is a very qualified professionl in his field. we’re still not perfect like Ah Sam Ah Sohs daughter who is very smart . got her own trinket store in Toronto airport.. so dont let our mothers destroy our dreams. You know your own capabilities and make the best of it.. Good Luck
April 24th, 2005 22:50
Jason,
don’t spend most of your time on blogsphere, it’s unhealthy. I just realized it.
Ask yourself what do you want. When you know it, just go for it!!
p/s: Bill gates doesn’t have first class honour kay!!
April 24th, 2005 22:56
I will say…you better continue with your studies as long as your parents can afford to pay for your tuition fees. Else…you are most likely to regret in the future. Sorry, i am not here to nag you, but i really think that in order to survive with such competitive society today, we need to have at least a degree (even a degree is only the lowest qualification that could get you a well pay job).
April 24th, 2005 23:01
At this point Jason you would need to shift into your frame of mind that nothing in life is ever easy.
And when you look at being compared to, don’t just let the fact that the other person is better than you,…most of us are lucky cause we are far better off than we think we are.
Complaining is the boast of a person who is ignorant
April 25th, 2005 02:48
tiuniasing: you are rite bout spending less time online … haha :)
hmmm my company? nah - i am now looking for gals as sales promoter, haha no luck for you …
actualy when mom nags - thats a sign of them caring for us, i see no harm, just listen lo …
these are all old-fashion moms, they won’t go hugging us or kissing us on the forehead or cheeks - but instead will nag and nag and nag … thats just them
so what can we do as filial respecting sons? - just shut-up and listen!
iisee no harm in that - some i hen i get too much nagging i just shout back … feel guilty bout it - its not like they will be with us forever - cheerish them while they are still with us …
April 25th, 2005 10:38
1st–don’t complain. For when you complain, you put yourself in the role of a victim, and give away your power.
2nd–Remember that you have the potential to be what you want. You just need to know what you want to be, do and have, and allow it into your life.
3rd–parents sometimes just love to compare their children with other’s children. Don’t mind them. They still love you.
4th–Do what makes you happy, as long as it doesn’t interefere with others.
April 25th, 2005 22:13
Jayelle : I will. Thanks alot! Mother’s day coming up, haih~! Hopefully I dun “kek sei” her.
Gah Yoong : Hehe! Try my best? Hehe! :P Thanks for the comment though.
Thquah : Thanks for reading my blog. I appreaciate it. Aii, but sumtimes the pressure are a little bit heavy, so made me wrote out that post. :) Thanks for your encouragement.
Romantic : Finally, I see you again. :) Hehe! Alright, I will. :) Thanks alot!
Tiu Nia Sing : I know. Not only blogsphere, the internet actually. Hehe! Bill Gates didn’t even finish his degree. LOL.
Mei Gie : I am not sure whether they can support me anot, coz I am depending on some government loan. My parents are occupied with the house loand already. So… Sighz, money crisis in my family. Thanks for your advice. :)
April : Ah, nice to hear from you again! Thanks, Ap! I am fine now actually. But once again, your wisdom shows again. :) Hugz.
Earl-ku : Haha! Yeah, I really understand that. But when nag for too long like 45 minutes to 1 hour, sometimes we just cant help it and really feel depressed. :) I know that my mum and dad just care bout me, but they could nag me every time they see me, ask bout result, see the way i use my money and stuff. I just go nuts. Haha! Earl-ku, maybe you can consider firing your office boy and let me work for u. :P
Sexymama : Hey! First time commenting. Thanks for your advice. Maybe I should print this out. ;)
April 26th, 2005 02:09
FYI - I do not have any office boy working for me lol … haha
April 26th, 2005 09:05
usually, i juz turn my ears to “off” mode when my mom starts nagging. it may seem rude,but thats how i survive. or just voice out ur opinions,but dun shout them lor…u sound so kesian la.
April 26th, 2005 09:37
i dun really talk to my mom anymore due to the same reasons. this has been so for many years now…
April 27th, 2005 15:16
Earl-ku : Damn! :P
Sheen : I memang kesian. Sighz… :(
Simon : Hmm, i hate to say this, but as her age is growing, maybe you can spend little more time talking to her. Afterall, you are working already. I dunno what she can still nag about or does she can nag anot. :) As we grow older, things changes right? :)
May 4th, 2005 18:07
Actually working has more headache. When I was at your age, (ahem, sounds very old) I was like you too. So much of pressure an my study lah, etc. Now, I really miss school days. Enjoy when you can. Life is never easy. I think your mom just loves you so much. I will keep your blog in mind, and avoid nagging Ian. If we do keep in touch, remind me when my son is at your age! Hehehe!
May 4th, 2005 22:47
Lazy Mum, when we work, we wanna study. When we study, we wanna work pulak. Very cacat hor! Hehe, yaloh, don’t nag Ian too much. No good one ler. Hehe. Don’t worry, my blog will always be here and I can always keep in touch through your blog too. :) Hehe. When Ian is at my age, I guess I would have become a daddy liao. Hopefully, I wont be nagging my own children. LOL.